Every time you state what you want or believe, you’re the first to hear it. It’s a message to both you and others about what you think is possible. Don’t put a ceiling on yourself. – Oprah Winfrey
How many times has this happened to you:
… Don’t worry; it happens to all of us. Nearly everyone I know (including myself) has said to themselves, “I will do this!” with great conviction. But then it slowly stalls not long after that.
So what went wrong? Why do we have such a hard time seeing our goals through to the end? Did we make too lofty or unattainable goals?
Perhaps. But the answer may be simpler than that – you never said your goal out loud.
There’s something magical about saying something out loud. According to psychologists, when we express our thoughts to others, we become more aware of what is going on in the mind. We put it out there in the open letting other people know what we plan to do, and, right or wrong, we now have to defend our position. In other words, what we say becomes a sort of reality.
I remember running into this when I was starting my nurse practitioner business. I’d often think to myself about how I’d get it started or how much money I’d aim to make that first year. But none of it quite happened until I started being more open with people about what I was planning on doing. Suddenly, after saying it out loud, I was accountable for the dreams I had expressed. Rather than be a failure, I felt more motivated and energized to turn them into reality.
When you tell someone else your idea, it’s natural for them to say things back like “How do you plan to do this” or “What will you do about that”. Although it may feel like it, they’re not trying to shut you down. They’re just simply trying to have a conversation and help you to see the same challenges they perceive. Not only is that kind of advice invaluable, but it also forces you to think through their questions and solve problems before they ever happen.
The next time you want something to come true, tell someone. It doesn’t matter whether it’s building your net worth, losing weight, or learning a new skill. Let the world know that you believe it’s possible to accomplish the thing you’ve set out to do, and therefore they should expect it to come true too.